IQ vs EQ vs AQ (Series)

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Part 4(EQ)

By Florence Rwengabo

“There is no separation of mind and emotions; emotions, thinking, and learning is all linked”- Eric Jensen

It is a lovely Sunday. You have decided that one of the things you will do is take those medical checks you have been putting off. You do and one surprises you. It is positive.

It is life-altering. Please keep in mind that you are at the peak of your career, as a matter of fact, this is the week you are moving to a different department because you recently got that long-awaited promotion and you have been over the moon.

Now, however, everything is radically falling apart.

Question; Would you be capable of finding a balance? Know how to tend to your emotions, deliver at your job and adapt to the new changes that each of these circumstances carries without losing yourself? If yes, how?

Before I go an inch further, I want to believe that by now you know the definition of each of these quotients. If you do not, please go to wanam world as this is the residence of this series as I won’t dwell deep into them.

Now, that you are up to speed, let’s carry on.

I first intentionally learnt of the three quotients when I decided that I was going to be an expert in my line of work. My brilliance was the one thing I relied on to take me places because quite frankly, my emotions and adaptability were one giant mess.

As I learnt more, however, I realized how crucial these quotients were. The one advantage; It was not too late to learn and improve in any of these areas so, I did. 

Intelligence Quotient, regardless of how complex it might seem and what genes you carry as many have attached to it, can be enhanced. All you need to do is invest both money and time in yourself and be willing to learn at any age to say the least.

Adaptability Quotient, on the other hand, can be a little tricky according to the kind of person you are. Things like your personality come in handy here, so I will say know your personality and learn how to enhance it in every environment without depleting yourself. 

Emotional Quotient, however, which is where I want us to focus is far more personal, intimate, deep and potentially unpredictable. It is the capsule that can potentially explode the other two for better or worse.

“The emotionally intelligent person is skilled in four areas: identifying emotions, using emotions, understanding emotions, and regulating emotions”-John Mayer and Peter Salovey.

Let us go back to our scenario at the start of this article. That was me sometime last year. And need I tell you that I have never been so close to the end.

Allowing myself to feel and learn why I was feeling the way I was, accepting it, managing myself wholly and still delivering at my work while adjusting to the new environment I had just moved in was near impossible. 

Most of my relationships ended because I was emotionally distracted and entirely unavailable to anyone else. I learnt things about myself that I thought were a sheer mystery.

Yet the world did not stop for me, not for one split second. 

    “Relieve yourself of the notion that everything revolves around you. It does not”.

My work still needed me to be the brilliant new hire. My people still asked when I was getting married and, yes, I still had bills to pay.

Now you must understand that I am a relatively small-bodied person so, let us not get into the fact that I was shrinking day by day to a point where I was 40Kgs. 

What did I do? You must be wondering.

I stripped myself bare to a point where I was able to lovingly and peacefully identify, use, understand and regulate my emotions appropriately without any intervention.

I intentionally decided not to move onto the next thing until I identified the honest often ugly answers entirely abandoning the influence of my ego or pride.

Among countless things, I found that this was the only way to know how and when to move on intelligently. You will know when something is about you or someone else and respect that. Stay or to move. To be silent and listen or speak.

This, I found was my emotional quotient growth journey and I am still on it.

Florence has an impressive body of work that if you love such deep and touching pieces, you should definitely check out here.

IQ vs EQ vs AQ (Series)

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Part Three (AQ)

By Benjamin Musanjafu

If you have been following this blog series, by now you must be familiar with IQ, EQ, and AQ.

Since am a blogger I will be as plain as possible because that is the original intent of blogging.

However serious a theme maybe be, because of a blogger’s EQ the readers should find the work more soothing compared to let’s say an academic paper.

However much this blog series is about 3 Qs, there are more and I think this statement takes us to the CQ. If you read a blog and your Curiosity Quotient is normal then you either didn’t put your soul into the reading, or you are a blunt reader.

I will start by backtracking to the initial sequels of the IQ, EQ, and AQ series by defining the Qs. But you will let me add a fourth in my descriptions. For now, Psychologists say there are four types of intelligence.

By intelligence, I don’t mean FSB, Mi6, CIA, and ISO given the militarization of the world today.

And I saw for now because things change, the last time I checked there were fewer planets in our color system than they were 15 years ago.

Because of CQ, you may need to check out my murmurings. I think it’s proper for now to roll with the full phrases instead of the short forms. Am certain there those of you going to binge reading starting from here going to the initial blog posts.

Intelligence Quotient, the one we call IQ. We normally joke about having kids with high or good IQ, so we try to make IQ a prerequisite for a dating mate. Anywho, our first Q is about comprehension.

Basically, how we take in information and make sense out of it. It’s about the ability to solve mathematics, memorize things, like how many turns we make to our lover’s place in the days of courtship, the ability to recall subject matters.

Like how gravity affects time and space and at what point the two interchange roles. When does time stop moving and space starts? For example Time dilation and concepts of demand and supply. These are examples and could be blog posts on another day.

Emotional Quotient is the next Q. It’s more important than the first Q because I bet you remember what I was trying to bring out, sorry am trying to be funny on this Q ride. EQ is about our ability to maintain peace with others, keep time, being responsible and accountable, being honest, respecting boundaries.

For example, today we have cultural differences, being humble and genuine but also being considerable, and by considerable, I mean not being self-centered.

EQ doesn’t work well with self-love if by any chance you remember the Summon on the Mount by Jesus. EQ is too deep that I may end up going deep into the Bible and the Quran.

Another ask is before I go to AQ the main subject of this blog let me talk briefly about a third Q.

Social Quotient; this is the measure of our ability to build a network of friends and maintain It over a long period of time.
Success in our lives is mainly but not fully based on our EQ and SQ.

Because this is a blog I will give an example about myself.

I work with about 7 builders and they have high IQ when It comes to construction but because of my EQ and SQ, am able to be their manager and they respect me. The bosses are not necessarily the ones who used to be number one in class.

My whole life I have cherished those moments when the best in academics through my 13 years in school are under me. They know how to do and they are good at it.

The last Q is the most important in the life of humans through eternity. The A in this Q has many forms. Adversity Quotient other scholars call it Adaptability Quotient. This is about the ability to go through a rough patch in life and come out without losing your mind.

It’s this Q that determines if your spouse will run away when you have financial problems. They are not gold diggers or whatever you may call them. Their mind is weak and their AQ levels are really low. It’s because of AQ that people abandon their own families when they are troubled.

It’s because of AQ that people live in denial forever after going through a divorce. We all know a divorce affects many parties starting with the main principals, the children, family, and friends.

How the parties move on and get along with the changes is about AQ levels?

Children may start bed wetting, a sign that they are not adapting well to living in-between homes.

For children, AQ is also in play when they change schools or move to boarding school.

Some people who are used to being single and have low AQ levels will fail to adjust to life in a marriage after the wedding. AQ is that vital.

AQ and Careerism

Today we live to be careerists, and that’s why we are all academics one way or another.

Looking for that Master’s and chasing funds for that PhD, that is important how our work is.

In this casee, AQ is the ability to adopt to change and embrace it in order to continue growing and advance out careers. AQ is basically about endurance and resilience as time moves on.

How we deal with drastic changes, like change in management of an organization?

Sudden cost-cutting measures and being asked to take on more work or leave the job is determined by AQ.

Are you able to perceive things with a level of control as you face really bad and trying situations?

If yes, then your AQ is high up there. If you keep on jumping from job to job then any Human Resources Management will have questions on your AQ.

Taking ARVs for people living with HIV/Aids for 20 years is having serious levels of AQ. How you put on your mask during this pandemic which we are calling the new normal is much about AQ than the other Qs.

Our generation as individuals and collectively finds itself in a faced paced world. We are faced with the possibility of having to survive and coping with serious events like this type of Coronavirus that is upon us.

We have climate change to deal with. Managing and overcoming adversity from the family the start of society to being flexible and curious at a new job or even starting a business from a disastrous situation is the pivot of success today and all this hinges mostly on AQ.

Benjamin is one of the most proficient and outstanding bloggers on the African continent, especially, because of his zeal to help other bloggers to find their footing in the writing and blogging world. You can find more of his work here.

IQ vs EQ vs AQ (Series)

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(Part Two)

By Ivan Rackara (Lord Rhaikara)

A few days ago Rogers from Wanam World invited me to be a part of a conversation that pits IQ, EQ, and AQ against each other and I gladly accepted relishing the opportunity to be part of such an important debate so here we are.

For starters, IQ is short for Intelligence Quotient (IQ) which is a measurement of a person’s reasoning ability. EQ on the other hand refers to Emotional Quotient and can be understood as a person’s ability to recognize and understand emotions and use that information to guide their thinking and behavior.

While IQ and EQ are relatively familiar terms AQ known as Adaptability Quotient is a relatively new less familiar concept.

One I’d never come across before I took up the challenge to contribute to this conversation.

But it’s a scientific measurement of adaptability in individuals and teams used to measure performance and assess individual potential.

Now while this conversation sets all 3 models against each other, mine today is to offer bits of information that will help you make the right decision as to what matters the most.

Whether it is IQ, EQ, or even AQ, I hope that we’ll both have our answers by the end of this series.

One of the biggest questions out there is about whether being intelligent (having a high IQ) equates to success in life.

It’s a question that psychologists have raced against time to answer with a couple of studies suggesting that it takes more than intelligence to succeed in life and going on to suggest among other key traits like Grit.

My view has always been that Intelligence was never enough and that while intelligence was important, it was more of an individualistic trait and to succeed it took how you managed your relationships and harmonized intelligence, your environment and other traits like determination.

As if in disagreement with the assumption that high intelligence solely breeds success, I’ve encountered my fair share of intelligent people who just didn’t know how to not screw up.

This point creates an opportune moment for me to talk about Emotional Quotient which is also sometimes referred to as Emotional Intelligence (EI).

Now like I might have alluded to earlier on, EQ allows you to understand yourself and others in any setting. It’s such an understanding that determines how you think and behave.

With EQ, one builds and nurtures relationships with people who are always crucial to the success of any person.

It gives you the ability to dissect situations and understand them whether they are arguments or squabbles, having the emotional intelligence to understand the cause of the fracas, see your role in causing it and then weigh in on your options and diffuse the situation.

It’s a quality that is important for problem-solving and ultimately leadership.

At the start of this year, the world was hit by the COVID-19 pandemic which by all standards changed the world, underscored the importance of automation and pushed companies and organizations to reinvent and change the way they do business.

For me, this event was the biggest stage to highlight the importance of Adaptability Quotient. In a fast-paced world with all the changing technologies and business models, Adaptability Quotient stands out.

It’s not enough to be intelligent or to have an understanding of your emotions and thereafter those of other people.

You need the flexibility to stay ahead.

It’s no wonder that a 2014 report by Right Management in UK reports that 91% of HR Managers felt that “People will be recruited on their ability to deal with change and uncertainty as opposed to other skills”.

In conclusion, if you asked me what was more important of brothers I.Q, E.Q and sister A.Q, I probably wouldn’t know the answer.

But, I’d for once pretend that I’ve got a thing for Maths and throw in a pie chart and few percentages.

I.Q would have 40% and E.Q and A.Q would rank close by on 30%. But well, that’s me. I would like to hear your thoughts.
What really matters? How would you draw your pie chart?

Pie Chart depicting necessary percentage of each of the quotients

The incredible Lord Rhaikara has a glorious land where he lords over all characters found there. Visit him sometime here.

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