I am an African but…

Well, that’s a series on my friend Bola ji’s blog and I got the honour of being part of it.

Here is what I had to say about the misconceptions about Africans. Well, one that them:


A Weaker Vessel: The Stronger One

By Rogers Wanambwa & Florence Rwengabo.

“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered”. I Peter 3:7 NKJV

This verse in the Bible has often times been misused by many people to show that because women indeed are weaker in the physical than men, they therefore are in all other areas too.

An obviously un true perception and we are going to expound on that in this article.

Research shows that married men are more productive in all aspects of their lives than their single counterparts and isn’t just happenstance.

Married men have the privilege of the care that their wives give them in terms of all they do at home which leaves the men to concentrate on their jobs and thus be more fulfilled.

Additionally, men are inherently interested in their work and everything and everyone that helps, supports them in their endeavors is of great importance.

Their spouses providing the biggest unwavering support a man can ever get.

“It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Gen 2:18 NIV

This verse puts it aptly how much men need helpers. Suitable helpers. And also the fact that women in their creation are purposed to be helpers.

Let’s expound on this more:

Helpers in all ways are supposed to be either of equal strength to the person they are helping, or stronger. Therefore, it is no mistake that God did not create another man but created a new gender, a woman.

It is evident that your helper cannot be the same as you in everything. Otherwise, both of you would be strong in the same areas and weak in the same areas. Something you would not need.

Concerning women being stronger, one may be inclined to vehemently deny this claim. But, let’s not dispute this entirely without looking into it.

Women are the ones that largely carry the responsibility of raising children while most men work (although they too work nowadays, if they do not look back to see what their children are up to, a detailed generation is what turns out).

In being the weaker vessel, women have ruled behind the scenes. Pulling strings subtly and taking charge of situations their men would never have handled alone. Yet, this many a time is ignored.

That doesn’t mean it’s not true.
It turns out that strength isn’t measured in brute strength alone but in the collective effort to influence things, be it in a straight forward way or behind the veil and those behind the veil have done a better job at influencing things.

If you are a reader of the Bible you also know that it describes the Holy spirit as the helper too. JOHN 15:26 goes on to call him a friend, a counselor, an advocate, comforter, encourager, strengthener and is always at stand by. Things that have absolutely nothing to do with muscle and build but rather spirit. This is what a woman is.

But needless to say you have to let, understand, love, honor and respect her for you to experience all these things lest your prayers are hindered like the Bible says in I Peter 3:7 NKJV.

On an interesting page, women are masters of seduction and deception. This makes them a phenomenal force to reckon with as they seduce even the mightiest of men (like Samson) into falling by their words alone.

Tell us what’s more powerful than that?

So, find your helper and indeed you will have found a good thing.

This is our third collaboration with the smart and talented lady that is Florence. Her amazing work can be found here, do check her out sometime.

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