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Naturally, when you are an accomplished person, whether man or woman, your family, friends, and colleagues all expect to see a significant other in your life.
This has not been the case for me. I am closed off to anything that will lead to intimacy!
Has there never been anyone special?
Oh, there was! This handsome, tall, black guy I met on a case I was handling. He reported the case.
He was a concerned neighbour and a witness. I was intrigued by a man that felt touched by the beatings that the victim was suffering at the hands of her husband in the dead of night.
After the case, he asked me out. “I know how these things work. You can’t go out with witnesses, victims. But since it’s done…”
Honestly, I had already developed a crush on him. An engineer and he was doing well for himself.
We would date for two months and at some point, he professed he loved me.
🤦🏿♀️
I knew such a day would come. Maybe later? Not this soon! Who professes in just two months?
He was willing to wait. That I was worth waiting for. I just couldn’t take it.
I am ashamed of what I did next!
I stopped talking to him. Changed my number and since he never knew where I stayed, I was careful for him not to, I disappeared.
Why?
Well, I am still traumatized from that experience all those years ago! I knew that’s where we were headed and I chickened out.
So, yeah, here I am. In the middle of the night, awake, wondering what I will do to get over that day.
The therapy sessions don’t seem to be working…
Ms Eunice is a story I have had in my head for months. She speaks to several things that happen around us which for some reason, don’t get enough attention. a) Rape and defilement are some of the biggest detriments in girls and women’s lives affecting their entire lives. b) Educating girls remains an issue in Africa where millions don’t receive it, reasons some of which I mentioned in the story. c) Though Ms Eunice hints about receiving therapy, it is something most people in Africa never get or seek out. d) For some reason, it’s difficult for people to fathom anyone not wanting children and marriage.
Well those and other issues you might have noticed are things I wanted to highlight as we complete the second Afrobloggers challenge, the #WinterABC2021. Thanks for passing by.
Rogers M. Wanambwa 
Therapy is not as alien, more people are starting to acknowledge they’re human and sometimes need help. About marriage and kids, we still have a lonooonnngggg way to go!
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Thanks for acknowledging how much we have to go. That doesn’t mean it’s an impossible journey, as you have pointed out.
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👏👏👏
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Very deep.
Therapy should be encouraged on all levels.
I tell you there are many Ms. Eunice in marriages today who have not completely healed from scars from the past but they go ahead to marry just because society pressures them to.
Some will even be stigmatized for daring to speak about their scars.
I don’t even know where we are heading with all these.
For me, I keep talking because that’s the only way I can heal from whatever scars I’ve had.
Not everyone is as strong, so the circle continues.
Let’s keep praying then!!!
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And speaking up against such vices in society. We should always call upon the government to act.
Perpetrators need to face Justice and no one should come to their defense.
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Thank you for reading all the parts of the story.
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