Sometimes as men, we tend to forget that the other gender can be polite, engaging (and sometimes flirty?) yet they will still say no to your advances.
May I be frank here and tell the ladies that we are perfectly capable of doing the same!
The year-long lockdown we have had is making many people bored and you know how a bored mind and the devil buddy up.
You begin flirting with someone, maybe not at first, but a compliment to their picture, here and there. They do the same.
Someone complimenting my work would be a great way to start for example. (Information can be used however lol)
Then you are chatting incessantly, noting things, and sending memes, quotes, and before you know it, one of you drops in a word or two.
Awkward at first, then exhilarating and exciting. You both start from there.
You can’t to talk to them, wake up in the wee hours of the morning and sext. It’s all fun, right?
The feelings start creeping in for one of you (maybe both of you even).
Then it reaches a point and you just want to meet “for coffee” or “lunch”. You both know it’s more than that but won’t admit it.
You may even go to one of y’all’s place…
“I had a great time.” Accompanied with a range of emojis. One of sends a message after. The other replies later than usual, they were “kinda caught up.”
No explanation like the usual, no “Sorry dear.”
Red flag! But you decidedly ignore it. You’ll look back at this moment and realize that it should have been the only warning you needed.
Then communication becomes one-sided. And stressful.
You become mad! Don’t they know you care? It’s pretty obvious you do!
At the back of your mind, this nagging voice has been there the whole time. Telling you to look past the flirtation, past the sweet voice, past the feeling that you get every time you talk to them.
To see them for who they really are. Someone that cares and respects you would take things slower. They would want to date you ‘for real’ if they were interested.
They would say it outright if they were interested! Has she ever said it?
You try to remember but obviously, she never did.
It was all a lockdown thing to her that would end when things got back to normal for her.
You panic. Tell her you have feelings for her. Then stupidly give an ultimatum.
“This is it. Tell me if you are into me or not? Is this going anywhere serious? Can we date? As in make this official?”
And she said no. Oops! I meant, and she says no.
After all that.
But it was a lockdown thing, nothing serious. You know!
Unless there is proper communication for the other party about things, don’t assume for them. This applies to all situations really.