Cures Without Pain and Progress Without Change (Plus Other Impossibilities we Believe in)

Cures, Progress & Pain


By Rogers Wanambwa & Rebekah Wasen


Many a time we find ourselves in situations whereby we need to cure something or progress from one level to the next. However, as it so happens, we expect this to go by our terms, and normally, that means with as much ease as possible.


We are proven wrong countless times about that!


Some laws govern everything and one cannot simply defy them and expect results. It may work a few times, but not always. On the contrary, when one masters what needs to be done, they are almost always guaranteed success.

Let’s delve further into that:


For any cure to work, a lot is involved.

Research in the causes of the ailment, development of the medicine to be used, tests, and finally, the cure itself.

All this, takes patience, resources, and time. I separate time from resources even though it is one because of its importance.


Consequently, all this suggests pain at some level or all levels. For those who researched, who invested their time and finances, and the patients too. It is basic knowledge that if a disease is not attacking a huge number of people, it may never get a cure.


Why? Well, it’s not financially viable to invest in it. As mercurial as that sounds, it remains true.


Besides, the pain that the patients go through also contributes to how fast a cure will be developed. If it is something that most can live with without much notice, the disease may not be a priority.


This also goes to outline the priority indicators painted on individuals and the system at large which society rubs shoulders with. I guess what that means is that the real outliers are seen in our daily priorities to impact change or be a norm, maintain the status quo even at an individual level.


So ideally progress can be tied to a priority list. And that too can change from time to time, as a matter of fact without change, progress may never occur; progress is simply changing from one state or level to the next.


The pains, in this case, are the struggles on our sleeves. It is diabolic not to think about the many pains that people carry invisibly but so visible. the soulish pains, the ones that break one’s ‘will’ it’s the hurt that you cant touch and trace that usually hurts the most. The one that bears from jilt and broken dreams, the one that drains all hope in you.


It is important for all of us even as we deal with our struggles in this pursuit for life not to under look the pains and pangs of others, we all must be sane enough to bear the progress both collectively and individually. How and where do I /we go from here? What can I/we do differently to reach the set goal?


Like Rogers elaborated, for medicine to work it has to be intentional and that is why research is conducted and there some pains that no placebo can heal.


Cures Without Pain and Progress Without Change is like taking a placebo pill for each episode and expecting it to work just the same.


When doctors prescribe treatment, they monitor and evaluate progress. If there is no improvement, the approach changes too until the sought-after progress is derived and nursed to health.


Oh what pain we often forfeit, and what manner of a vicious cycle we usually get stuck into. But if we are intentional, present, and acknowledge the parts of us that need to change and what roles we play from deriving routines to doing something to enact change, to reach our goals, be better and sustain momentum to a place where we can still monitor it all because the only constant thing is change and it matches our sleeves.

Wasen is an incredible writer, that I enjoyed working with, whose work can be found here.

AUDITS & SEASONS

BY ROGERS WANAMBWA & MS KANG’OE


AUDITS


An audit is an examination in general. It is a review and examination into the records and activities of one or an organization plus the adequacy of system controls they have established to meet certain goals.


As we start the second quarter of the year, there is a need to revisit and analyze what has been achieved and where things didn’t go well. All good, right? Well, sometimes this is taken a step too far and we start beating ourselves up for no reason.


In one of the articles on Wanam World, I wrote about ‘Dreams, Decades & Decisions’ and how some things we are targeting to do will take us time. Plain and simple, we have to give them time to get to us.


It is therefore imperative that while doing our regular audits, and I strongly encourage this, that we should account for the seasons and periods of time when things will occur.


You cannot measure successfully how well a business, for example, is doing and whether its profit margins are great if it has just begun. Every business has a starting phase, breakeven point, and take-off stage.


When you audit it in the starting stage, the dismissal returns should not discourage you, I, personally, learned that the hard way. I started a business somewhere and was discouraged by the figures in the first weeks.


I shut it down and moved. Someone else started the same business in that place and the business still stands, albeit with a good profit return four years later.


So, yeah, as you audit your books, remember the timing of when you are doing it. Let my friend talk about seasons in detail.

SEASONS


Just like the earth experiences, it’s four seasons, (spring, autumn, summer, and winter) your life cycle has seasons too. Take your time now and examine which season you are experiencing. Which season will you say you are experiencing? Sometimes, it is difficult to recognize the season you are in. In a natural sense, seasons do change so do the seasons in our lives.
 
“For everything, there is a season and a time for every purpose under the heaven.”
-Ecclesiastes 3:1
 
SPRING SEASON


This is a season of growth and maturity. A season where we consume the nourishment that the spring of life has to offer. It comes in form of education, mentorship, and experiences that prepare us for the heat of the next season. Through this season we are shaped into the person that will soon get the chance to go out of the world. This is a season of budding to come out into your own. Just like a caterpillar process to come out of its cocoon, hold on to this season and experience the wonder of being nature.
 
SUMMER SEASON


Springtime prepares us for the summer season. We are grown now and it’s time to take action. This is the time we build relationships, the time we build that business, the time we become fighters and warriors of the world. This is the time for creating your legacy. In this season work hard, share your success with others, and keep in mind that summer sunshine dims at some point.
 
FALL SEASON


This is a season where many of us fall into trouble. We are broken down right when we want to harvest the benefits of the summer season. Here, the focus becomes less. The good thing is, this season gives us the opportunity to attend to ourselves and the people in our lives.
 
WINTER SEASON


This is the season of darkness. The most challenging time for most of us. The season where we question ourselves. Why me? Why am I not progressing? Why does this have to happen to me? Why did he leave? Through this season remember to be thankful and find strength through adversity. Recover to come live again in the spring.
 
These seasons will come and go throughout our life. Learn to dance with them and embrace each changing of the seasons.
Whichever the season you are in remember that God is making everything beautiful in its time.
 
Besides, don’t go making Summer Audits in the Winter.

Ms Kang’oe is a wonderful observer on life who normally tells what she sees on her blog. Do visit her sometime.

AGE IS JUST A NUMBER (Pt 2)

By Hilda Nsesonkpa and Rogers Wanambwa


THE UNMARRIED AFRICAN WOMAN


There comes a point in a woman’s life when it seems that all hope is lost. When I say a woman, I mean an unmarried African woman in her thirties. There comes that time when you feel lost in this big world. There comes that time when you feel like time is passing you by.


That usually happens when you are reminded by people that your “biological clock is ticking”.


But I ask myself this question: who owns time? Just like my surname Nsesonkpa, which is also a question and it means who owns life? The answer to both questions is God, the creator of heaven and earth.


He owns life, time – minutes, seconds, and hours. If that is the answer, then the reality is this: your spinsterhood time belongs to God.


Take joy in the word in Jeremiah 29: 11 which says, For I know the plans I have for you, ” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.


JOY IN SINGLENESS

Credit: Fame of God studios


Can there ever be joy in being single? Oh yes! Absolutely yes! My dear unmarried African woman, this same time that you think is passing you by can be used for your advantage. You have the time to study if you so wish as you are unmarried.


You have the luxury of time to travel if you have the means. You have enough time to read if you love to read.


Use your time in being single wisely for as surely as the Lord lives you will also get married and you might not have that luxury of time at your disposal to do the things you love. So, go on and write that book, start that business, go for that training.


Girl! Pursue your dreams. Do not allow any pressure to dictate the course of your life. A big cheer to all unmarried African women.🙋


THE UNMARRIED AFRICAN MAN

Credit: Oluwakemi Solaja


The closer one approaches their thirties, the more pressure, both internally and externally, they have to deal with. Internally, whereby you have to prove that all the investment that your parents or guardians have put into you was worth it.


We are talking millions of shillings (Ugandan currency), time, and effort. This all goes on in your mind and heart and if you are not strong-hearted, you may become depressed. It has never been more difficult to succeed than ever before.


Yet, surprisingly, it has never been easier to succeed. Success stories around you never cease. Couple this with the evolution of social media which constantly reminds you that everyone is ‘doing well’ and the pressure keeps mounting.


But are they really? Is what you see the reality of what’s happening in their lives or it’s all an elaborate illusion. If you don’t mind your race, you will be unsettled for the rest of your life.


It is therefore better to run your race. Have your own vision and goals and stick to accomplishing them in the time you set for yourself.


As men, the pressure to prove ourselves is ever mounting. To yourself, peers, potential female suitors, family, and society as a whole.

This perhaps is even more ridiculous because the more you achieve, the more that’s expected of you.


I guess the same is expected of women? I won’t speak for them though as my co-author already gave her opinion.


What I believe is best is to engage with those older than you and having intimate discussions on how they navigated the season you are in. it feels to me as though a great valley has developed between adults and their younger counterparts.


The more you talk to older people, the more you realize you are not really out of time as you think. This helps you relax and do you. You get to focus on what’s really important, chasing your dreams.


Besides, even an older person can listen to a younger person and take their advice. One saying in Luganda, a prominent language in Uganda, “Nómuto akuba engoma, omukulu nazina” explains it well. Loosely translated, it means that advice can be given two-way, by a younger person and an older person too.


Anyway, we are all different and so are our destinies. Embrace yours.

Hilda who wrote the first part is helping to shape the future of the African continent through teaching the young generation. She also does write and work can be found here.

Do You Mind?

H.e.r


Do you mind
If I held onto your heart
A little longer?
If I do not get myself another like you
Do you mind holding onto my promises
Just until I’ll be ready to fulfill them
One by one as time goes by.

I dropped your fragile heart
But was late to prosecute rescue.
Do you mind leaving it with me
As you move on?
I’ll be extra careful as I pick up all the pieces
Stitching them with love and care
As I kiss away whatever pain there will be.
Caressing it smoothly to erase all the marks from the stitches.
Do you mind leaving your heart with me
As we move on?

Roger


How do you do it?
That you can hurt me like this and I still come back to you?
Do I mind?
Yes, actually, I do!
Will I wait?
Of course, I will!

Do you mind being faithful this time around?
Do you mind being honest this time around?
Do you mind loving me the way I do you?

I will still wait,
Because I love you so.
Moving on from you?
Never!
Moving on from this?
Yes!

I only hope we become better,
That ours is a love that grows stronger,
That what we have gone through will be testament,
Testament to our unending love.

Do you mind giving this more effort?
Do you mind giving us one more try?

By H.e.r & Rogers Wanambwa

H.e.r is an eccentric lady whose intricate work can be found here.

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