Ms Eunice (final chapter)

Check out where the story begins from here.

Naturally, when you are an accomplished person, whether man or woman, your family, friends, and colleagues all expect to see a significant other in your life.

This has not been the case for me. I am closed off to anything that will lead to intimacy!

Has there never been anyone special?

Oh, there was! This handsome, tall, black guy I met on a case I was handling. He reported the case.

He was a concerned neighbour and a witness. I was intrigued by a man that felt touched by the beatings that the victim was suffering at the hands of her husband in the dead of night.

After the case, he asked me out. “I know how these things work. You can’t go out with witnesses, victims. But since it’s done…”

Honestly, I had already developed a crush on him. An engineer and he was doing well for himself.

We would date for two months and at some point, he professed he loved me.


I knew such a day would come. Maybe later? Not this soon! Who professes in just two months?

He was willing to wait. That I was worth waiting for. I just couldn’t take it.

I am ashamed of what I did next!

I stopped talking to him. Changed my number and since he never knew where I stayed, I was careful for him not to, I disappeared.


Well, I am still traumatized from that experience all those years ago! I knew that’s where we were headed and I chickened out.

So, yeah, here I am. In the middle of the night, awake, wondering what I will do to get over that day.

The therapy sessions don’t seem to be working…

Ms Eunice is a story I have had in my head for months. She speaks to several things that happen around us which for some reason, don’t get enough attention. a) Rape and defilement are some of the biggest detriments in girls and women’s lives affecting their entire lives. b) Educating girls remains an issue in Africa where millions don’t receive it, reasons some of which I mentioned in the story. c) Though Ms Eunice hints about receiving therapy, it is something most people in Africa never get or seek out. d) For some reason, it’s difficult for people to fathom anyone not wanting children and marriage.

Well those and other issues you might have noticed are things I wanted to highlight as we complete the second Afrobloggers challenge, the #WinterABC2021. Thanks for passing by.

Pessimism vs Optimism (We Need Both)

By Rogers Wanambwa



1. A general belief that bad things will happen.
2. The doctrine that this world is the worst of all possible worlds.


1. A tendency to expect the best, or at least, a favourable outcome.
2. The doctrine that this world is the best of all possible worlds.

Today, I had to be in Kampala very early to catch a meeting with one of our clients (well it is a group of people but that is beside the point). As is normally the case on most occasions, I was the first in place for it.

I found several people among whom was a lady (a practicing advocate) and a kid. The lady was telling the girl, whom I should mention at this point was not her daughter, that there are no real friends and she (the kid) should never tell any friend her secrets.

The girl asserted that there are in fact real friends who can be there for you.
They ended up at an impasse. This moment had me thinking about many things.

For example, how articulate the girl (who told me she is 8 years upon asking) is and how firm and assertive she is. She stuck to her beliefs. But I digress, this will be a conversation for another day.

The other thing that got me thinking was how we view life differently and how we are all right in our view. Let me expound on this.

Take, for example, the girl and her optimism about life. She was assured of their being good people in life and not even an older, more distinguished figure could change that.

On the other hand, the lady who perhaps through various life experiences has grown to become pessimistic about life. She has a conviction is that no one is trustworthy enough to be let in on your secrets. A typical pessimist.

Divergent views on life but all right in their own way.

On my part, I believe that we need both pessimism and optimism in our lives if we are to succeed.

We must know that this world is full of evil and bad things are happening every day. This helps us steer clear of those perpetrating this evil.

Besides, it is also important not to get lost in the fear of something bad transpiring all the time that we are paralyzed into inertia.

Exude optimism where it is needed and be pessimistic where you don’t trust the situation or those around you.

Lesson Ends.

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